Life is what you make of it!
Relationships are hard. One cannot be on the sidelines and expect to win. One has to be part of the every discussion, every plan and every adventure. Love is forgiving. Love is painful. Love is fulfilling. The desire to be with someone should be so compelling that you need to have only person in your mind, i.e your love!
I am not an expert at it, but being with my fiancé for more than five years now, has taught me a little and I want to share it the rest with you, as to what worked and how we moved ahead to forge our beautiful relationship.
Two of us and one of me - for you
How to be best partner? What one needs and how one have it in the best possible way. Alone you go distance, but together you go far! Genesis of my journey. Do let me know if this resonates with you?
As they say two is better than one. It’s not like me living solitary life is not fun. You don’t have to respond to anyone and anybody. One can party out late and have shots after shots. But it’s not fun to come home to an empty house. I have done my fair share of the parties. I said to myself, enough is enough!. I wanted to find someone where I can be myself and not lose myself, but perhaps rediscover myself. I want someone to show me my adventurous side, someone who can learn my wildest side and will still be there for me the next day.
Lets take a sneak peak at my journey
Before meeting my partner, there was part of me that would keep that side private. I only showed to myself, not always revealing to past boyfriends, family or friends. My fear and self doubt would creep in. If they knew this side, would they still be there? Would they still love me? It would quickly turn into a downward spiral. As other women may know, we feel that we have to keep it together for those around us. To stay balanced and not show our true selves. It is always a coverup. Its a mask. When I finally found my partner in life, he helped remove that cover and unmask me, which was ultra-liberating. He loved me and all sides of me. I don’t have to project that cover or that balance for having love in my life. I can be my more authentic self. Sometimes I am normal and polite and other times, more wild and a party girl, but my partner is still there. I have felt in past that if I showed the other side of me, that the man would feel intimidated by me and find a reason to chicken out of the relationship. That was not that case! Men do want to know the real you. When you find your partner, they want to share in that with with you and partake of it. It brings us closer together. I have now realized those expectations; be they, societal or cultural, was not realistic at all. To feel you have to be a lady and act like this or that way, Life is too short for that. YOLO, as cheesy as that may sound! So your answer should be why not? Why not try those things? Why not share those things with your partner and be that person you want to be? Stop beating yourself up to portray a certain person, and for what? What does it get you? Do you want to live trying or not live? Embrace that side of yourself. Who cares if you have people who don’t accept this side of you. They weren’t the right person anyway. The people who are your true friends, and who are your partner, they will be with you and will accept you. Life should be fun and not lived with so many rules that you can’t express yourself. It’s ok to be you, everyone else is taken! Your partner will be there for you, appreciate and reciprocate back to you. Be wild! Only one question remains, can you handle their wild side in return?