Good Partner - Effective Communication - How to talk that my partner so that he listens? Part 3
How many times it has happened that I have for a spoon and in the return my partner has handed me a hammer? Obviously, it’s an exaggeration and it’s not that hammer is not a good alternative to coffee, it’s not. What made him get the hammer is an interesting question. I can say things got lost in translation but why it does happen all the time? Was I not clear or my partner never listened to what I asked? I will go out on a limb here and say it’s the latter one. Say hello to Effective Communication - speaking in a way the other person listens.
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship, and being able to speak in a way that your partner will listen is an essential part of that. Here are some tips that may help:
Set the stage: Find a time when you and your partner can talk without distractions, and make sure you both have enough time to fully discuss the issue at hand.
Use "I" statements: Instead of blaming or accusing your partner, focus on your own feelings and experiences. For example, instead of saying "You never listen to me," say "I feel unheard and frustrated when I don't feel like my opinions are valued."
Be specific: Clearly explain the issue or concern you want to address, and give specific examples to help your partner understand.
Listen actively: Communication is a two-way street, so make sure you're also actively listening to your partner's responses and feedback. This will show them that you're open to hearing their perspective as well.
Avoid being defensive: Try to stay calm and avoid becoming defensive, even if your partner's response is not what you were hoping for. Remember that your goal is to have a productive conversation and work towards a resolution.
Consider seeking outside help: If you find that you and your partner are struggling to communicate effectively, consider seeking the help of a couples therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support.
Remember, effective communication takes practice. It’s important to approach these conversations with an open mind and a willingness to work towards a solution together. Keep these tips in mind and make a conscious effort to communicate effectively with your partner. Will leave you with this joke by AI
Knock, knock.
Who's there?
Boo.
Boo who?
Don't cry, it's just a joke. But seriously, can you ask my partner to stop tuning me out when I talk to them?
Do let me know what do you think!
Further reading: Follow the first blog in the being a good partner series, here: How to be a good partner? Part 1